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I AM NOT A PSYCHOLOGIST OR STATISTICIAN, SO THE FOLLOWING IS BASED SOLELY UPON PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS INFO COMPILED FROM A 2-YEAR ONLINE SURVEY RUN AND 120 SHORT RANDOM STREET SURVEYS GIVEN TO STRAIGHT-IDENTIFYING MALES AGED 15 - 65. AT:

I just want to say that I have gotten an amazing number of positive responses and thank you's from heterosexual men (through phone calls, emails or in person) about how much this ‘Fetish Page’ and the article I wrote based on it, have informed and helped them understand their attraction of T-Girls as well as realize that there are MANY other men who are curious...

The article that was written for "The Canadian" focused mainly on defining the VariousT-Girl Terms, whereas the following breakdown is primarily Statistical Info about Male T-Girl Lovers/Admirers.

Although there is still a degree of secretiveness about it, the fact is that IN TODAY'S WORLD MORE THAN HALF OF STRAIGHT MEN HAVE AN ATTRACTION OR CURIOUSITY ABOUT T-GIRLS.

• The number of men who admit to a preference for T-girls has grown steadily and significantly in the last 10 years due mostly to increased media exposure on such shows as "Jerry Springer" and "Jennie Jones" as well as the introduction of the internet which allowed for a huge amount of information to be available on the subject. People became more aware of the subject and thus the number of those curious began to increase.

In fact, during the years going back from about 1998 until 2007, the percentage of Straight Males 18+ with an interest in, or a past experience with a T-Girl went from being the minority (30-40%) to the very large majority (70% +)- Straight men just seem to be fascinated with ultra feminine T-Girls and that ‘something extra’ they offer.

• About 99% of the men who are interested in T-girls are heterosexual or bi-curious, NOT gay. THIS IS PROBABLY THE BIGGEST MISPERCEPTION THAT STRAIGHT GUYS HAVE.

These men are looking for feminine qualities combined with something 'extra' and are NOT attracted to masculine men in any way. It is perhaps moreso, the physical dichotomy that is driving the attraction. If they were truly gay, they would be pursuing a male with masculine features, not a T-Girl.

I cannot stress this point enough since so many guys who are into T-girls mistakenly and ashamedly believe that they may be gay. Not so, they may consider themselves bi-sexual but by general definition, definitely NOT gay.

• There are 2 general types of bi-sexual men. Some bi-men are attracted to females for their femininity and males for their masculinity. They can appreciate both genders. The other type of bi-men are attracted to females, as well as, feminine males (or T-girls). They tend to appreciate the feminine gender more. Both types of men identify themselves as being heterosexual with bi-curiousity, but neither can be considered GAY, because their attraction is NOT SOLELY to masculine males. Men who are attracted strictly to masculinity usually identify themsleves as being GAY. This explains why so many gay men find straight men very attractive, because of the strong masculinity factor.

• Most T-girls identify themselves as being female, but most effeminate gay men still identify themselves as being male. So gay men like MEN (whether masculine or effeminate), while straight and bi-men can like WOMEN & T-GIRLS or MEN but NOT necessarily all 3. This may all be a bit confusing but it is a key difference. Straight and bi men are attracted to femininity and, since T-girls purposely heighten their femininity with makeup, clothing and their general attitude, they would be naturally more attractive to heterosexual men, NOT gay men.

If a straight man were to compare a very feminine T-girl (with long hair, wearing sexy clothes and heels ) to a very masculine woman (with short hair, wearing overalls and a man’s shirt), he would MOST likely pick the T-girl as the more attractive because of the femininity factor.

Despite the fact that a woman is female, it does not make her feminine and just because a T-girl is biologically male does not make her masculine.

In fact, many straight men claim that some very passable T-girl girls are MORE attractive than some biological women precisely because:

• There seem to be 2 stages that many (but not all) straight men go through at different times in their lives when they are sexually curious/open to being with a TV, TS or male, the younger age being at the onset of puberty when most boys ‘mess’ around with their male peers (about 70% did when they were younger). The older age being around middle age or mid to late 40s or 50s when many men may become interested in exploring various fetishes, including shemales or kink.

• Despite the positive progression that T-girls have had recently, it is disturbing to also note that many of the most outwardly 'phobic' individuals, are in fact, themselves closet shemale lovers or curious about it and feel guilty. As a result, they will portray themselves as anti-trans or homophobic when in public and amongst friends in order to avoid the truth being known about them. THIS HYPOCRISY NEEDS TO STOP!

• In the future, T-Girls will be considered in the same way that inter-racial or May-December romances are, eventually becoming just another dating option for straight men

So who are these men that are attracted to T-Girls? The fact is the range is so wide, its hard to categorize or pin down any one particular group or common trait, other than they are male!!

• The majority of men, about 60% are single. Another 20% are married and about 30% have a significant partner, but only a very small number of these guys are open with their partners about their preference.

• About 10% are open or have joked with their close male friends about their preference. Some are even shocked to discover that one or more of their friends are into T-Girls as well. Some have even dated the same T-girl (at different times), sometimes without knowing it at the time!!

• Most of the men who are attached claim that their partners are not as sexually open or adventurous as they would like and they find that frustrating, which is one of the reasons why they seek out sexual pleasure elsewhere. The other obvious main reason is that their partners do not have the right 'equipment'.

•For the most part, it seems that men who are interested in T-Girls are of average and above-average intelligence, attractive, educated, open-minded individuals who are comfortable enough with their own masculinity to try something exciting and different. Also, the majority (80%) try it at least once more after their first time and continue to lead a normal, heterosexual life without a problem. It also seems that once a man tries it for his first time, he is usually relieved to have tried it, and most will try it again.

• Another interesting thing to note is that some VERY attractive straight men who have many opportunities with women, become bored or feel unchallenged by these biological females. Being with a T-Girl offers a bit of mystique, adventure and excitement.

• There is also the reversal-of- power factor. Most dominant guys who usually take charge or have some degree of power/control in their everyday lives (at work, in a relationship, etc) enjoy giving all that up and being in someone else's hands by being submissive to a T-Girl in private.

• By profession, there is a huge number of Blue Collar Workers (about 30%) in Construction (Trade Workers & Contractors) as well as about 30% in the Business Sector (Investment Banking/Stock Brokerage, Business/Financial Consulting).

• Another 30% are mostly in : Tech Industry, Health/Fitness, Real Estate, Automotive (Sales & Manufacturing), Restaurants, Film and Music Professionals, Medical Professionals & Lawyers.

• There is a slight majority of men, overall, who are in high-ranking, white-collar jobs and the rest fall into the blue-collar category including specialty tradesmen.

Acupuncturist, Airline Pilots, Army Officer, Celebrity Canadian Musician, Cirque du Soleil Performer, Clown, Cruise Ship Performer, Doctor/Surgeon, Film Sound Editor, Firefighter,

Fisherman, Helicopter Pilot, Hypnotherapist, Immigration Officer, Judge, Lumberjack, Music Video Producer, Newscaster, Oil Rig Worker, Police Officer (Fmr), Professioinal Football Player, Professional Boxer, Professional Hockey Player, Professor (University), Psychologist,

Referee, Reporter, Screenwriter, Tattoo Artist, Teachers (all levels), Ultimate Fighter, Winter Olympic Gold & Silver Medalist & Zamboni Driver

This shows that straight men who are attracted to T-Girls are from every walk of life, every level of society and from every age group. There is really no way to narrow it down to any one specific group.

• In terms of ethnic breakdown, it is important to note that certain groups are unaware or ignorant of the term 'shemale' and may mistake T-Girls for biological females, in which case, they are not included in these breakdowns. Also, one must consider the fact that different individuals attract different kinds of people and these numbers only reflect my experience. Another T-Girl may have completely different experiences.

• Caucasians top the list with roughly 90% (this may also be due to and reflect the overall population percentages), and also includes men of European (35%), British (30%) and Latin (15%) descent.

• Even though there are many different Europeans, the order of frequency is somewhat consistent - 1: Italian, 2: Greek, 3: Portugese, 4: Polish, 5: French , 6: Russian & Ukranian, 7: Hungarian, 8: German, 9: Swiss, 10: other Northern & Eastern European countries

Please note that this breakdown of Europeans does not just include visitors from those countries but European-Canadians (who grew up in Canada) as well.

• Then there's Latin men who break down into relative numbers for those from Europe & Spain (60%) and from South America and the Caribbean (40%).

• Toronto GTA and also Barrie, Kitchener, London, Mississauga, Markham, Newmarket, Oakville, Parry Sound, Richmond Hill, Whitby. Other Canadian cities represented include: Montreal, Ottawa and Vancouver.

• There are also a significant number from the states of California, Florida, Georgia, Illinois, Indiana, Michigan, New York and Texas.

• Visitors from some other countries include Argentina, Australia, Columbia, France, Germany, Hungary, Isreal, Mexico, Netherlands, Poland, Russia, Spain and Switzerland

• Most guys think of themselves as being below average (which is considered about 6"). The largest was about 11", the smallest literally about 2" erect. About 60% are cut or circumcised, 40% uncut.

• In terms of girth, most men are about average, maybe 5" around at the base. But some guys are almost as thick as a beer bottle. Many also have large mushroom heads and a tapered shaft.

• Most guys have average size balls - about a nice handful with both. Younger guys (but not always) are usually not as low-hanging. A small percentage of guys (various ages) are extremely low-hanging, although it would depend on how much one pulls them. A small minority have also tried shaving, which makes them more sensitive to the touch.

• About 40% have fairly smooth bodies with little or no body hair, while the other 55% have some or little body hair and about 5% have excessive body hair. Most younger guys have their pubic and body hair shaved or trimmed while more middle-aged and older men do not (but should try). Clean Shaven heads or very short hair also seem more popular with about 5% of guys with very short hair or completely shaved (which can both be sexy depending on how its worn)

• Many men find secretive cross dressing very arousing and sometimes wear an article of female clothing underneath their regular clothes while out in public.

• Many guys are into ‘partying’ while having fun (maybe 25%). Some enjoy alcohol or 'poppers' while the majority prefer 'party favours & refreshments'.

• The most popular fantasy is mutual or one-way french (almost 90%), followed by giving or receiving greek (40%). A smaller number (25%) like BDSM which includes bondage, leather, domination & discipline. Then there's a fair number (20%) who enjoy cross-dressing to some degree (it could be wearing one piece of lingerie or a full transformation). Here are the rest in descending order: CBT, Forced French, Body-worship, Golden showers, Bondage, Voyeurism and others.

As an example of how these figures will differ depending on the T-Girl, take the percentage for BDSM, which would, of course, be higher for a professional dominatrix, which I do not consider myself to be, and much lower for a masseuse.

• Some of the more interesting fetish preferences range from smoking and stilettos to watersports and crossdressing. See below for links to Fetish Definitions. Also see ‘Introduction’ page of this site for a more detailed list.

• There are a large number of male/female couples, of many ages (usually 30-45), who are into being with a T-girl, either watching or participating. In fact, even quite a few single heterosexual women are curious and interested in having a one on one experience (which is not something that I am personally into, but there are some T-Girls who are...no offence to females..lol!)

• Men are very sexual beings, and even though many believe that their preference for T-girls puts them in the minority, it is actually the majority of average straight males (70-80%) who have at least thought about being with a T-girl, but are afraid to say so. With the number of men who are into this, it's not unusual for someone you work with, are friends with, or are related to, have a similar preference, but not be open about it because of societal perceptions.

• As long as partners are consenting, and safe sex is practised, fetishes are very healthy, completely normal and some, such as the desire to be with T-girls, are VERY common.